OUCH....THAT HURT......

ROSES AND THORNS.....BABY TOYS.....

WE DON'T GIVE OUR BABY TOYS THAT WILL HURT AND DRAW BLOOD....WE DON'T GIVE A BABY A BUNCH OF ROSES WITH THORNS ON THEM......SO WHY ON EARTH DO WE GIVE THEM HARD PLASTIC RATTLES. THE BABY HAS NO HAND - EYE COORDINATION AS YET, NOT FOR A WHILE AND WHEN WE GIVE THEM A PLASTIC RATTLE THEY KEEP HITTING THEIR HEAD AND FACE AND ALL OVER THE PLACE....PLEASE GIVE THEM SOFT TOYS THAT CANNOT HURT THEIR EYES OR NOSE OR HEAD IF THEY DO BASH THEMSELVES. THINK......THINK

SOON THEY WILL START TEETHING AND EVERYTHING GOES TO THE MOUTH, SO DON'T GIVE THEM HAIRY, WOOLY TOYS FOR THE HAIR TO GET INTO THE MOUTH AND INTO THEIR THROATS OR NOSES AND CAUSE IRRITATION AND CRYING AND THEN YOU CAN'T FIND OUT WHY THE CHILD IS CRYING THEN GET IRRITATED. THINK.

WHEN THEY CONTINUALLY HIT THEMSELVES PHOBIAS START DEVELOPING, A SUBCONSCIOUS HATRED FOR THE THINGS THAT ARE HURTING THEM.....THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THIS YET...BUT ONCE AGAIN THE BRAIN IS RECORDING........ WHEN THEY START CRAWLING AND START PLAYING WITH TOYS, THEY TAKE THE PLASTIC TOYS AND THROW THEM TO THE OTHERSIDE OF THE ROOM....... BECAUSE THIS PLASTIC HURT THEM, AND WHAT DOES THE MOTHER OR FATHER DO ????? NAUGHTY CHILD, UNGRATEFUL CHILD....STOP THROWING YOUR TOYS AROUND.....WAKE UP MOTHER, WAKE UP FATHER........THINK.

MAKE SURE WHATEVER TOYS ARE THERE CANNOT HURT THEM OR HARM THEM IN ANY WAY....NON TOXIC OBVIOUSLY, WHEN PLAYTIME ARRIVES EACH DAY THE BEST TOYS ARE LIVING BEINGS...LIKE PARENTS.....MAKE THE TIME....YOU WANTED THE BABY, JOW MAKE THE TIME.......THE HAPPIER THE BABY, THE HAPPIER WILL BE THE TOODLER AND THE CHILD.....IT IS ENTIRELY UP TO THE PARENTS TO ENSURE THEY PLANT THE GENTLE, DECENT CHARACTERISTICS AND THEN THEY WILL HAVE A BABY AND CHILD THAT WILL BRING THEM GREAT JOY. PLANT THE WRONG SEEDS AND YOU WILL HAVE A LITTLE MONSTER ON YOUR HANDS.....ALL IN YOUR HANDS..... THINK..... THINK...... ©

Tomorrow....we will inspect the beginning of exhibitionism.....and disrespect....

ATTENTION PLEASE.......

A LADY AND A BABY

If you want to be a lady,

please don't have a baby.

There won't be much time for spit and polish,

the beauty routine you may have to abolish.

Baby can't wait for nails to dry,

as they call to you with a bellowing cry.

Nails will have wait for a later date,

as baby has now become your fate.

Treat me right so I can bring you joy,

please remember I'm not a toy.

I'm very much alive and need your attention,

don't push me aside as if in detention. ©

Monica Maartens.

SELF CONFIDENCE FACTORY

FEEDING TIME.......

It is always best to breastfeed a baby, not only for the valuable nutrition and protection from the mothers immune system, but in a very large part for the close contact. This builds the babies self assurance and confidence in a very subtle manner. The closeness makes them feel wanted and important and PART OF SOMETHING SPECIAL. If breast feeding cannot be done for some or other reason, as least hold the baby in your arms while bottle feeding to ensure they suck properly and no air is sucked in to cause them discomfort and winds, but far more important, for the sake the closeness. Once they are able to sit in a few months, they can be placed in a chair or pram close to where you are busy so they have constant contact with you..... when this part is neglected, there is a gap, something missing that no one can put their finger on....just something missing, and invariably these babies, when a little older, will seek comfort from older people, placing them in great danger to child molesters.....every child is different and we should allow the child to withdraw when they are ready, they will push us away when they are emotionally ready to be on their own. This is so important not to leave hollow gaps in the babies development....it ALWAYS FLASHES BACK LATER IN LIFE..

GIVE YOUR BABY THE BEST START THEY COULD EVER RECEIVE......BE THERE UNTIL THEY SHOW YOU IT IS OKAY NOW, THEN YOU ARE STILL THERE, YOU ARE ALWAYS THERE, BUT NOT SO APPARENT......
THE COT AND PRAM FEEDING BABY..... need to cry to inform the mother that they have a need.....when there is not a immediate response, the seeds of inferiority and timidness start growing,
they are not important enough to be acknowledged, theirs calls are being neglected, the feel unsure, scared, maybe even angry......this may be their first experience with frustration and anger.... seeds that are planted because they are being ignored.... THIS IS A VERY SENSITIVE AND IMPORTANT TIME A HUMAN LIFE.....SEEDS ARE BEING PLANTED AND NOBODY IS AWARE OF THIS TO REMOVE THEM AND REPLANT SEEDS OF POSITIVITY.....SO THESE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS DEVELOP DAY BY DAY, EVERY SINGLE TIME THE BABY HAS TO CRY TO CALL FOR HELP THESE NEGATIVE SEEDS ARE BEING WATERED. BY THE TIME THEY START CRAWLING THEY ARE ALREADY TEMPERAMENTAL, ANGRY, FRUSTRATED AND AGITATED.... NICE WAY FOR THE POOR CHILD TO START LIFE....ALREADY AT A DISADVANTAGE......THINK WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR BABIES, OTHERWISE, DON'T BRING A CHILD INTO THE WORLD TO DESTROY IT... .. PLEASE.....PLEASE...THINK WHAT YOU ARE DOING...... ©

Tomorrow we take a look at the very important aspect of toys.......

CLOSENESS

LET ME BE CLOSE

I need to feel you close to me,

the time will come for me to be free,

when in your arms I feel safe and secure,

making my feeding a pleasure for sure.

While drinking your milk I'm relaxed and calm,

knowing that nothing can bring me harm,

your milk is sweet and what I need,

the perfect balance from which to feed.

It has all the nutrients my body desires,

filling my cells with growing fires,

all is just like it needs to be,

warm in your arms is a joy to me. ©

SHOW ME, TELL ME, FEEL ME

INTRODUCING THE BIG NEW WORLD

Baby needs to be gently and slowly introduced to all the strange new things. Their hearing is super sharp but their eyes still need to adjust to distance, height, width, depth, etc, and they need to adapt to life outside. For a little baby this is A MASSIVE STEP, from the womb to a house is a BIG, BIG WORLD.........

Everything is new and big and scary, so we must listen through the ears of the baby and every sound we hear, gently explain so the explanation is recorded in the brain together with the sound, and because we are speaking gently, there is no fear associated with that particular sound. This is all happening on a subconscious level, in the storage of the brain, but at the same time the baby can understand, they just can't speak yet. The brain is building a background foundation with all the knowledge that is already being planted inside and when the baby at an older age hears the same sound it is like a rewind and they recognise it and know there is no danger. The brain is a recording machine and is fully developed at birth, it's just waiting to be filled. Don't for a moment believe it is a baby brain, because a brain is a brain, so start planting the right information from very young, it will automatically store it in the right place for future reference and a good solid foundation is laid as they baby grows. Please don't trash the child's brain with baby talk.....ever seen how they look at someone doing the baby talk thing ???? As if the adult is a little cookoo and needs some help !!!! 

Feelings and emotions are the major operators at this stage so tenderness and love is vital. The baby can only communicate with feelings, crying out for attention to show they have a need. We leave them alone for only very sort spells at a time and slowly wean them from the outer womb. Feel what the child feels, think like the child, BECOME THE BABY IN YOUR MIND AND SEE YOURSELF THROUGH THEIR EYES..... AND A WHILE NEW UNDERSTANDING OPENS UP.....HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE TREATED AS THAT BABY ???? ©

WHAT'S UP FOLKS

GO SLOW

Oh dear me, what a big world this is,

I hope I can learn it with gentle ease,

please remember all is new to me,

give my eyes a little time to see.

When I point at something out there,

please don't slap me with an angry stare,

all I'm asking is tell me what it is,

what does it do and who does it please.

Keep in mind I work on look, feel and taste,

nothing I find ever goes to waste,

most of the time it goes straight to my mouth,

make very sure it's safe to go south. ©

Monica Maartens.

GROWING PAINS FOR ALL

FIRST MONTHS OF A BABY'S LIFE

So many babies are born and placed directly into a cot and pram to experience their very first encounter with loneliness and fear. The noises of life are now very loud and very clear and no longer muffled by the liquid in the womb, so babies ears are very sensitive and there is no comfort as they lay all alone in a cold dead cot.....all that wonderful warmth and comfort is suddenly just completely gone.....how horrifying. They don't know where the sounds comes from or what it is and there is no warmth or heartbeat or comfort to !take them feel okay. What happens now ???? THE FIRST FEAR IS NOW BEING WATERED TO GROW FURTHER....FIRST THE SEPERATION FROM THE MOTHER BY THE NURSE AND NOW THIS....THIS SEED OF FEAR IS NOW STARTING TO ROOT.

When the baby is attached to the mother or father they can explain the noises to the baby as they happen because the babies brain is already a fully developed brain and will absord and record the noise and the explanation and the baby will be at ease without any fear. Feeling the body warmth and hearing the heartbeat reassures the baby that all is hunky dory and there is nothing to fear. We need to place ourselves in the baby's shoes and think from a position of being totally helpless and reliant. When a baby cries in a cot, they may not be wet or hungry...... BUT SCARED AND LONELY.....and once again they cry out and there is no man.....there is no help....again and again, and the insecurity makes roots, the feelings of rejection make roots, the loneliness make roots and each time they need to wait for someone to come it waters these roots and the trees start growing and continue to grow and bother us throughout our lives.

WOW MAN, WOMAN.    THEY'VE JUST COME OUT OF A WARM, SAFE, COSY WOMB.....................

HAVE A HEART WILL YOU.......THINK......THINK....

THINK........

BY THE TIME YOU GET THERE THE NOISE IS GONE, THE SHADOW HAS MOVED AND THIS IS RECORDED IN THE BABY'S BRAIN AND NO ONE WAS THERE TO EXPLAIN IT......BUT IT IS RECORDED....... AND ANOTHER SEED MAKES ROOTS......FEARS AND PHOBIAS.....WHEN THAT NOISE APPEARS THE CHILD WILL ALWAYS BE AFRAID UNTIL THEY SEE WHAT IT IS.....UNTIL IT IS PROPERLY EXPLAINED THAT FEAR WILL TRAVEL WITH THEM. NO ONE KNOWS IT'S THERE, BUT IT IS......

Tomorrow, unless there are detours between now and then, we take a peek into the introductions to this tiny beings new world.......gently and slowly............©

RIDE THE RAINBOW - GET IN DEEP

EXPLORATIONS

Oh, look, I can move all my limbs at once,

get ahead with a bounce and a pounce,

I'm on a mission to get around,

see what's laying in my way to be found.

You'd better get ready because I crawl quite fast,

move all the things so I can get past,

I need open space to practise my skill,

I'm watching my hands and not my skull.

It's so exciting to start to explore,

can't get enough I just want more

please come down to the ground and play,

when you're standing up you're so far away. ©

Monica Maartens.

CONTENTED HAPPINESS

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN....THE HAPPY BABY

Most babies are taken away by a nurse straight after birth. Once that little ordeal is over and the baby is held close for the first few months, they manifest totally different characteristics to those who are placed in cots and prams. When held in a pouch on the mother, everything is very similar....the warmth, the heartbeat, the closeness, except they are now in the outer womb. These babies aren't so prone to nappy rash or discomfort, as they are with the mother and she can regularly check the nappy and when they have a number two, she immediately smells it and change the nappy there and then. They don't go through any of the anxieties the cot babies do and sleep when they need to within the noises they are already accustomed to. Besides they feel the warm safety of the mother or father's body, so none of the negative fear symptoms take root in them.

The characteristics manifesting in them are contentment, security, belonging, comfort - all positive.

CONTENTMENT : branches into a state if well being bringing the fruits of happiness, love, gentleness, friendliness, openness and calmness. They are relaxed, very rarely, if ever, cry, simply because they don't need to call anyone and show through their actions what their needs are. As there grows such a strong bond the mother easily recognises the signals.

SECURITY : branches into a state of inquisitive interest in all things around them. They are confident and point at everything.....there way of asking what it is. When we take them closer, show them and explain what it is and what it does, they are very content and happy with our replies.

BELONGING : branches into a deep bond of understanding between the child and parents making it far easier to teach them, they are much more receptive because they are relaxed and at ease. There develops a language of instinct between them where words are not needed.

COMFORT : branches to positivity, the baby is happy, knows they are loved, are attentive, easy to handle, out going, not prone to infections and illnesses because they don't have to use their energy for fears and crying and loneliness, they have no fears or phobias 

These babies rarely have problems with coughs, runny tummies, eating or drinking problems and overall are so much easier to deal with. They eat well, sleep well, grow and develop in a calm, easy manner, appear to be far more balanced and learn quickly, probably because they start life with a loving, caring, close bond. They don't throw tantrums or scream or holler, they seem to take things in their stride. Their physical health us good due to the xalm, relaxed closeness. When a mother or father learns to breathe deeply and slowly and stay calm under stress, it carries through to the child and they remain calm. This is not always easy, but we train ourselves and our bodies to remain calm and unchanged while our minds race in turmoil. Thus keeps our heartbeat even and the baby doesn't "FEEL"" our fear and tenseness. So young it is ALL ABOUT " FEELING AND VIBES". IT IS SO IMPORTANT TO KEEP CALM BECAUSE WHEN WE BECOME NERVOUS AND AGITATED THE BABY PICKS IT UP IMMEDIATELY AND SETS THEM OFF CRYING WHICH MAKES US MORE NERVOUS AND THEY CRY EVEN MORE. Most of everything at this stage is done through feeling and sensing. So learning to keep cool and self control and keeping our body at a steady pace is SO VERY VERY IMPORTANT. KEEP A COOL HEAD. ©

LITTLE BUNDLE OF JOY

BUNDLE OF JOY

Little bundle of joy I am, I am,

gonna stay inside for as long as I can,

when time is ripe I'll have to appear,

I hope and pray you'll hold me dear.

When I arrive I am love that is pure,

I don't need all sorts of things that lure,

I need to be loved and held very close,

hear your heartbeat as I take a dose.

Please don't cast me away on my own,

I'm far too small to stand alone,

please hold me close even just for a while,

I'll surely reward you with my baby smile. ©

Monica Maartens.

CAST OUT, SCARED AND ALONE

CAST ASIDE

It's deadly silent, there is no sound,

what happened to the voices that were always around,

I'm cold and scared and filled with dread,

laying all alone is a strange little bed.

Where is my cosy, warm abode,

the heart that was beating to a code.

my safety and security is suddenly gone.

I've bee crying and calling for so long.

My mother must have died and cast me aside,

as helplessly I lay with nowhere to hide,

There is no help and I can't run away,

as strange silent shadows over walls sway. ©

Monica Maartens

TOO SUDDEN, TOO SOON, INTO A COLD, BIG, BIG ROOM........WOW........LEAVES ME SPEECHLESS.......

OUR LIFE UNFOLDS......LIKE A BUD THAT STARTS BLOOMING

OUR MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL TREES START GROWING THAT WEAVE A PATTERN THROUGH OUR THOUGHTS AND EMOTIONS...........

LETS SEE HOW THESE NEW CHARACTERISTICS BRANCH OUT......

HERE IS A SKELETON GIVING US A BIT OF BACKGROUND ON WHICH WE WILL BUILD AS WE GO ALONG.....IT GIVES US THE GENERAL CONCEPT OF WHAT WE ARE LOOKING AT WHEN THESE CHARACTERISTICS START DEVELOPING AS A BABY GROWS.....

UNFAIRNESS : branches into indignation, hurt, confusion bringing forth fruit of wariness, insensitivity, or aggression, brutality........

MISUNDERSTANDING : branches into confusion, withdrawal, stubbornness bringing forth fruit of lack of interest, or rebellion, troubled attitude, irritable.....

REJECTION : branches into cageyness, reservation, introvert bringing the fruit of lack of cooperation, insecurity, pulling away......

FEAR : branches into timidness, phobias, dullness, passitivity bearing fruits of aloofness, frigidity, sloth, lack of willingness to test and try......

INSECURITY : branches into multiple personalities, always hiding, trying not to be there bringing the fruit of pretense, falseness, weariness.......

ISOLATION : branches into withdrawal again, hermitism producing selfishness, indifference, being unemotional.......

LONLINESS : branches into sadness, negativity, vulnerability which bring forth depression, making us disagreeable, easy targets for bullies....

ANXIETY : branches into nervousness, illnesses associated with nerves bringing eating disorders, hyperactivity, inattentiveness, distress and unhappiness.....

DOUBT AND MISTRUST : branches into deviousness, hiding things, bearing the fruits of lies and deceit, being agitated, apprehensive........

We are going to pass through each stage and bring these threads with us to see how it actually influences our development, from conception to the stage of understanding is so incredibly important for the parents to be aware of the strange noises, sounds, movements in a home and how deeply it enters into our babies. 
WE FORGET....WE ARE NOW ADULTS AND WE FORGET WHAT IT FELT LIKE BEING THAT BABY IN THE COT OR PRAM. IT IS NOT SO EASY FOR SOME TO SEND THEIR SPIRIT INTO THE BABY AND LOOK AT LIFE FROM THAT HELPLESS LONELY BABY. REMEMBER EVERY SOUND........EVERY SOUND IS NEW, WHEN THINGS MOVE.....LIKE CURTAINS IN THE BREEZE.....IT IS A MASSIVE PIECE IF SOMETHING MOVING WHICH THE CHILD DOES NOT KNOW.....IT IS TERRIFYING TO THE CHILD ESPECIALLY IF IT IS WAVING TOWARD THE COT....LIKE IT WANTS TO HIT THE CHILD.......THINK ......THINK..... THINK LIKE THE BABY. WHEN MOMMY IS IN THE KITCHEN AND BABY IS IN THE ROOM, IN A COT.....HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE HER TO GET THERE ???? ONE MINUTE IN A FEAR SITUATION FEELS LIKE A DAY.......IF YOU INSIST ON PUSHING THE BABY AWAY AFTER BIRTH AT LEAST CHUCK THEM INTO A PRAM WHICH YOU CAN MOVE AROUND WITH YOU WHEREVER YOU GO......

We now have a tiny taste of the very first developments.....©

Tomorrow we will have a brief look at a baby that us kept close and the characteristics that start developing there....the other side of the coin............

IN THE DARK

 

IN THE WOMB

You must be my mommy, I can feel your heart beat,

cosy and warm in my humble retreat,

oooh, there's something sweet that joined the meat,

you must have had ice cream for a treat.

I box and kick to get your attention,

you're disturbing my sleep with all your commotion,

don't you understand what I'm trying to say,

keep the loud music and noise at bay.

I wiggle and waggle as I try to turn,

you must have eaten something that gives you heart burn,

it's nice and warm and comfortable inside,

I wonder if I can always stay here to hide. ©

YOU WANT ME TO WHAT ?????

DETOUR......FIRST CHARACTERISTICS START MANIFESTING THEMSELVES FROM THE FIRST SEEDS THAT ARE PLANTED IN OUR VERY FERTILE BRAINS.......THE FIRST THREADS HAVE BEEN ATTACHED, NOT ONLY IN OUR MINDS, BUT ALSO OUR EMOTIONS. THESE THREADS WILL WEAVE THROUGH OUR LIVES IN AND OUT OF VARIOUS SITUATIONS. BEFORE WE CONTINUE LETS HAVE A LOOK AT THE THREADS ATTACHED AT THIS STAGE.. THESE THREADS ARE HIDDEN AND THE ONLY WAY TO EVER REMOVE THEM IS TO KNOW THAT THEY ARE THERE AND MANUALLY REMOVE THEM THROUGH UNDERSTANDING 

1) UNFAIRNESS.....TO BE PLUCKED AWAY FROM THE MOTHER WITHOUT ANY REASONABLE EXPLANATION. REMEMBER THE ONLY PART OF THIS NEW BEING THAT IS BABY IS THE BODY. THE BRAIN IS FULLY BRAIN, THE SPIRIT IS FULLY SPIRIT, THE UNDERSTANDING IS ALREADY THERE, THE BABY JUST CAN'T TALK TO TELL US. 

2) MISUNDERSTANDING......WHY THE ADULTS ARE INCAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING THE BABY'S STRESS. THE BABY IS EXPRESSING THEIR OBJECTIONS LOUD AND CLEAR....WHY ARE THEY BEING IGNORED ?????

3) REJECTION.....THE MOTHER HAS REJECTED THE BABY ??? WHY HAS SHE LEFT, WHERE IS SHE, HOW CAN SHE ALLOW STRANGERS TO PROD AROUND ? MANY QUESTIONS.

4) FEAR.....FEAR OF STRANGERS

                   FEAR OF PAIN

                   FEAR OF NOISES

                   FEAR OF DARK AND NOISES 

                   IN THE DARK

5) INSECURITY..... WHO TO TRUST, WHO WILL LISTEN WHEN THEY CRY ? 

6) ISOLATION.....THE WARM COMFORT OF THE WOMB AND THE COLD ISOLATION ONTO A TABLE.  

7) LONLINESS....WHERE'S THE SAFE HAVEN ? WHERE'S THE HEATBEAT ? WHERE IS THE MOTHERS SMELL ? ALL JUST THE STENCH OF ANTISEPTICS AND HOSPITAL SMELLS......

8) ANXIETY....NERVOUSNESS, CRYING FOR NO REASON, BRINGING PROBLEMS WITH DIGESTION LEADING TO VOMITING AND DIARRHEA - NOT BECAUSE THE BABY IS ILL, BUT BECAUSE THE BABY HAS ANXIETY WHICH AFFECTS EVERYTHING AS THIS YOUNG AGE....DIGESTION, SLEEPING, BREATHING......

9) DOUBT AND TRUST ISSUES....THE MOTHER IS THERE AND GONE, THERE AND GONE.....DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW LONG ONE MINUTE IS TO A BABY WHOSE EYES ARE NOT FOCUSED YET, WATCHING ALL THESE STRANGE THINGS EVERYWHERE, HEARING NOISES. .....TERRIFYING...... TERRIFYING.. AND THERE IS NO ONE. ...THERE IS NO HELP.....

LETS SEE :

1) UNFAIRNESS

2) MISUNDERSTANDINGS

3) REJECTION

4) FEAR

5) INSECURITY

6) ISOLATION

7) LONLINESS

8) ANXIETY

9) DOUBT AND MISTRUST

RECOGNISE ANY OF THEM ? MAYBE ALL OF THEM ? 

FANTASTIC FOUNDATION TO START LIFE ON !!!!!! WE BRING CHILDREN INTO THE WORLD WITHOUT KNOWING ANYTHING ABOUT HOW TO CARE FOR THEM, IN A WAY IT IS RATHER HORRIFYING.....NONE OF THESE THREADS VANISH OR DISAPPEAR...THEY TRAVEL WITH US THROUGHOUT OUR LIVES AND HAVE ENORMOUS IMPACT ON THE DECISIONS AND CHOICES WE MAKE. AS WE MOVE ON WE WILL SEE HOW THESE THREADS WEAVE THROUGH OUR LIVES...........

THINK ABOUT THIS FOR A WHILE AND JOIN THE DOTS...IT'S A MAJOR EYE OPENER......©

IT'S A BIG, BIG WORLD

HEY YOU.......IT'S ME

HI THERE

Hi there, it's me, I ain't got no name,

but I have arrived all the same.

This pushing through a tunnel ain't no game,

it's push and shove, what an awful strain.

Wow, but it's cold and harsh outside,

isn't there any place where I can hide.

Where is my mommy so I can lay in her arms,

she can keep me safe from all the harms.

I scream and holler but they ignore my appeal,

I'm thirsty and tired from the enormous ordeal.

It's scales and cleaning and heaven knows what,

if only I can get up and give them a swot.

Don't they understand I'm tired and weak,

I need to clutch onto my mothers teat.

They seem to take forever in time,

as my holler becomes a muffled whine. ©

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Can you imagine the fear, the confusion, this tiny baby, totally helpless, being proded with things entering the nostrils, mouth, ears,  everywhere, screaming and crying and there IS NO HELP............. 

CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF.....CAN YOU FEEL YOURSELF.....CAN YOU FEEL THAT HOLE IN YOUR SOUL.......CAN YOU FEEL THE EMPTINESS.......THE ISOLATION...... SEE HOW DEEP IT GOES.....THERE IS NO HELP.......AND THE SOUL AND THE SPIRIT AND THE BRAIN HAS RECORDED THIS......THERE IS NO HELP........WHAT A HORROR FOR A LITTLE HUMAN BEING TO ENTER INTO.....AND IT'S THERE.... IMPRINTED FOR ALL TIME, UNTIL WE EVENTUALLY UNCOVER IT. 

NOW I DON'T BELIEVE THIS IS RIGHT OR NECESSARY. I BELIEVE ALL THIS CAN BE DONE WHILE THE BABY IS QUENCING THEIR THIRST IN THE MOTHERS ARMS. AND THEREAFTER THE MOTHER AND BABY CAN GO AND BATH TOGETHER. WHAT DOES THE BLOOD MATTER, MOTHER AND BABY ARE BOTH COVERED IN IT. I JUST DON'T BELIEVE IT IS RIGHT TO PUT A NEW BORN THROUGH SUCH ENORMOUS TRAUMA ©...

GO BACK TO THE BEGINNING - DO NOT PASS GO

NEW BEGINNINGS....OFTEN MEAN : 

GO BACK TO THE BEGINNING...........

OUR MAJOR PROBLEM IS : WE HAVE NOT LAID SOLID FOUNDATIONS AND KEEP MENDING BROKEN WALLS, BUT IT IS NOT WORKING BECAUSE THEY KEEP ON CRACKING AND WE KEEP ON MENDING BECAUSE THE FOUNDATION IS UNSTABLE AND MOVING ALL THE TIME AND THAT IS THE MAJOR REASON THAT THE WALLS CONTINUE TO CRACK.   WE HAVE TO BREAK THE WHOLE HOUSE DOWN, LIFT THE FOUNDATION AND RELAY A SOLID FOUNDATION. 

We do not have the truth and therefore we are not able to cope with the temptations in life that leads us onto paths of darkness, i.e. looking the other way instead of stopping and preventing evil to be done, cheating and lying starts with small little fibbs and white lies, but soon becomes larger and we become trapped in our own cheating and lying, which frustrates us and makes us angry, we say life is unfair, yet we forget it is the wheel that is turning and what we sent out is simply returning to us.....it is how we made our bed.

WHEN WE START AT THE BEGINNING, WE GO ALL THE WAY BACK TO CONCEPTION AND START LAYING A PROPER FOUNDATION ON WHICH TO REARRAGE WHAT WE HAVE COLLECTED DURING LIFE. WE CAN'T WIPE LIFE AWAY, BUT WE MOST CERTAINLY CAN REARRAGE IT AS A WORK IN PROGRESS AND USE WHAT IS USABLE AND THROW THE REST AWAY...  WRITE IT OFF TO EXPERIENCE AND MOVE IT OUT THE WAY, WE NO LONGER NEED IT SO IT DOES NOT REMAIN.

WE KNOW SEE HIW SEEDS WERE PLANTED FROM THE FIRMATION OF OUR EARS AND BRAINS WITHOUT ANYONE DELIBERATELY HURTING IR DECEIVING US......THEY JUST DIDN'T KNOW SO IT WAS TOTALLY ACCIDENTAL. NO ONE IS TO BLAME. THIS OPENS THE DOORS OF UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVENESS. FORGIVENESS STARTING WITH OURSELVES.....WE MUST FIRST FORGIVE OURSELVES FOR BLAMING THE WHOLE WORLD FOR OUR PROBLEMS. NEXT WE FORGIVE OUR PARENTS AND TEACHERS FOR BEING ANGRY AT THEM, THEY NEVER INTENTIONALLY MEANT TO HURT US, SO DROP IT,  STOP HOLDING GRUDGES, IT ONLY HURTS US, LET IT GO AND CLEAR THE SPACE FOR SOME SOLID TRUTHS THAT WILL BRING US JOY AND LAUGHTER..... FILL OUR MINDS AND HEARTS WITH LOVE AND TAKE HILD OF THE LIFE THAT WAS INTENDED FOR US.......

SOLID FOUNDATIONS

FINDING THINGS....IS LIKE LOOKING FOR A NEEDLE IN A HAYSTACK UNTIL WE KNOW WHAT WE ARE SEARCHING FOR THEN IT JUMPS OUT AT US LIKE A JACK IN THE BOX, BUT IT IS NOT SO EASY TO IDENTIFY WHAT WE ARE AFTER.....THIS COMES WITH EXPERIENCE AND TIME.......A FEW GUIDE LINES........

To find something we need to know what we are looking for and then follow the trail. Remember all the dot games we played where we join the dots and then an animal or picture pops up, in the colour in books......well that was the ground work for us to use with our problems. We follow the tracks back to where it starts from and so many of our emotional problems we have now traced back right into the womb......that is why we are now inside the womb looking out. We see our anger, trace it back to hurt, trace it further back to why it hurts, find some misunderstandings, the reasons behind it and invariably discover a certain amount of insecurity and fear which takes us directly back to separation anxiety straight after birth. So many people that are arrogant, rude and abrupt are actually hiding insecurity and fear. When we are balanced we have no need of arrogance because anyone can scratch around anywhere in our life for we have nothing to hide....it's all clean inside which leaves us with a calm compassionate and kind nature. Things can't hurt us because we understand how it works.  ©

SOLID FOUNDATIONS

BEFORE WE BRING US INTO THE WORLD THROUGH BIRTH.....LETS LAY A FEW MORE FOUNDATIONS.......

UNDERSTANDING OPENS ALL DOORS.......

HARDWARE AND SOFTWARE

The body we live in is the hardware....the shell......

It consists of DNA which is responsible for the development of cells that form the outer shell we call the body.   Imbedded in the DNA are the chromosomes which is like software....the program we are designed to use in our life, talents, abilities, etc. The basics of what we will require through life. Us....the spirit living within this shell is the operator of all this software and life opens passages where we can have experiences and collect knowledge and information which we upload into our system. Whatever we allow to enter will be like threads we attach to a tapestry and these threads will weave in and out of our life. Many, many things enter without our awareness, as the brain automatically records all it sees and hears and then resurfaces at later stages, which can be very confusing because we don't recall ever having studied or been involved with certain things. So don't hit a panic attack, see what comes out and find more knowledge on it. If it is usable store it, if not, dump it, we don't carry extra luggage. 

As our understanding is growing and we go back into the womb in spirit, we will find many threads attached totally unintentionally. No one wanted to hurt us, damage us or mislead us, they simply did not know that the unborn baby can hear and record what is happening outside the womb. Now that we know this, we can have a clean out operation. No one needs to be forgiven because there was no evil intention, we don't have to feel guilty, we didn't put it there, we bring it forward, see if we can use it, if not we just chuck it out.....it serves absolutely no purpose. We make space for the truth which is beneficial to our growth and happiness. ©

FROM BEGINNNG TO END

THE TREADS OF LIFE........

WE COLLECT THE THREADS THAT WE USE TO WEAVE OUR LIVES STARTING FROM WITHIN THE WOMB.....

EVERYTHING OUR BRAINS RECORD BECOME THESE THREADS THAT WEAVE A TAPESTRY OF THOUGHTS WHICH LEAD TO OUR WORDS AND ACTIONS. THESE THREADS DON'T NORMALLY BREAK, THEY EITHER HAVE TO BE REMOVED FROM WHERE THEY BECAME ATTACHED TO US BY REROUTING TO WHERE IT STARTED, OR WE CAN CHANGE THE PATTERN THROUGH UNDERSTANDING.....USE A BAD TREAD TO WEAVE A BEAUTIFUL PATTERN...... ALL THROUGH UNDERSTANDING......... IT WILL ALL BECOME CLEAR AS WE MOVE ALONG THIS AMAZING JOURNEY.......

HOPE YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR TRIP...©

LET'S HAVE SOME LAUGHS

IT'S SATURDAY EVENING AND TIME FOR MORE FUN.......

A FEW LITTLE LAUGHS HAVE NEVER CAUSED HARM...........

DIDN'T YOU KNOW

There's a bun in the oven,

from all the lovin',

you should have known you had it comin',

now there's nowhere for you to go runnin'.

Best get ready for some consternation,

seeing you want to help build the nation,

this is what happens from fun and fandangles,

did you really think you covered all the angles.

For the next nine months you are mine,

and after that, for all of your time.

You brought me into this crazy world,

you'll have to teach me all of its worth.

But, for now, I'll cuddle in tight,

it's warm and cosy and quite a delight.

When you make too much noise, I'll let you know,

feed me wrong, I'll make a show. ©

A LITTLE OFF THE BEATEN TRACK.....

A CHILD IS BORN

Two seeds go forth and meet aone another,
they click and join and become one other.
Chromosome searches and finds chromosome,
as birds of a feather flock together.

Partnerships are formed - chromosome to chromosome,
where a chromosome is missing the search never ends,
it searches and searches until the mind bends.

The partnerships grow and become rather strong,
but....the orphan chromosomes keep going wrong.
They can't seem to find their place in the space,
something is missing and they can't keep the pace. 

The part that is there tries to strive ahead,
but....alas.....the missing part keeps on causing us dread.
So......we stumble and fall along our way,
always seeming to go astray.

Forever hunting and searching for what we cannot find,
we now have discovered part of the missing link
of some piece of us that was left behind.

Understanding opens new doors for us,
to adapt instead of crumble and snap.
A new journey arises full of surprises,
as we search and rescue the orphans inside us.

Imaginary partners now need to appear,
to embrace the orphans so full of fear.
Instead if being the odd one out,
they can now join the fun and get about.

No longer ignored, afraid and in the dark,
they're gathered in and given a brand new spark.
They too can now achieve their heights,
take part in the glorious eagles flight.

And so we bring it all together,
for joy and peace to last forever.
All that's missing must be made complete,
and then - we can restart with a brand new sheet. ©
AMEN.

 IT  TAKES  NINE  MONTHS  TO  GET  

OUT  OF  WOMB..........

AND  THE  REST  OF  OUR  LIFE  

TRYING  TO  GET  BACK  IN............

WELL.....HERE'S OUR CHANCE......

GOING  BACK  TO  THE  VERY 

BEGINNING.....WHERE  IT  ALL  

STARTED.......................................©

THE DAY OF BIRTH ARRIVES

THE DAY OF BIRTH ARRIVES......

THE ORDEAL AND TRAUMA OF THE BIRTH
ITSELF..........
We must remember this is a fully developed little being arriving from a warm, cosy, safe womb. Now all of a sudden there are massive contractions squeezing onto the child. As the placenta starts tearing away from the womb the mother goes through enormous, astronomical pain. It literally feels like she is tearing apart inside because that is exactly what happens. She needs her man by her side to give her all the encouragement and mental and emotional help that he can. Her pelvis moves and must open up for the birth and for a first time mother this is a very frightening experience. No amount of preparation can prepare her for the enormous pain of childbirth. She may very well be crying out to relieve the pain and the baby's mind records all this. At the same time the baby is going through the immense trauma of being pushed out through a little tunnel into the cold hands of the nurses. It's a good idea to hold the baby straight after birth before the nurses snatch them away to "clean" them. Why it is dine away from the mother I don't know, because all you hear is the child crying their heads off. This should not be the first experience of life on earth. They clean out the nose, ears, mouth and all openings to make sure there are no obstructions. Why it has to be done in such a cold clinical manner I will never understand. Suddenly the baby is no longer in the warmth of a cosy womb, but on a cold scale and cold table in hands they do know or recognize.
WHAT A TERRIBLE TRAUMA.
The mother is not finished yet, the contractions continue untill the placenta is ejected and only then it stops and she is left with the pain of afterbirth and possible stitches if she torn open while giving birth.

All this happens in a matter of a few hours to about half a day, if you are fortunate. It is a lot of drama and trauma in such a short space of time. After finishing off, the mother has a bath and then the baby is brought to her.....©

TOMORROW : WE LOOK AT THE EMOTIONAL IMPACT OF THIS SUDDEN SEPARATION AND ISOLATION........

EARS.......WE START HEARING.........

As the body is formed it is almost all emotions untill the hearing is formed. From here on the brain will start recording sounds and voices. I have been taken back in a dream/vision to where I could hear speaking as through water.......muffled but clear enough to hear exactly what was said. When a baby is delivered into the world, the brain has already started loading information. I personally believe a persons date and time of birth is on conception. When I became pregnant I actually felt a wiggling in my womb and noted the time as the time of birth, when the sperm wiggled its way into the egg. When a baby is delivered they are already nine months old. 

Babies conceived and born in times of war and depression are already scared before they even start their journey.....just the atmosphere surrounding them, the fear and insecurities of the parents, the hardships and battling to survive under these adverse conditions enter into that baby and because the parents are nervous, fearful, tired, stressed, it spills over onto the child and leaves its invisible traces. 

We really ought to take note of this and create a stable , gentle, loving environment while pregnant.....both the parents.....

Something to ponder on......©

Tomorrow........getting closer to birth......

FINDING ORIGINS OF WHAT BOTHERS US..........

Once we know where something comes from, it brings a tremendous calmness. Understanding opens all the doors of fear and suddenly everything starts falling into place. We waste such a large part of our lives on confusion, doubt and fear simply because we don't understand what is going on. When we see how things affect us from as young as the womb, things unknown before, we see that no one is to blame as such, and there is nothing wrong with us, we simply recorded all things, even the ones we didn't realize our ears were hearing and our eyes were seeing. While we are listening to something, we concentrate on that particular sound in our conscious mind and know and realize that it is going in, but the brain, on the other hand, is recording everything.......the background noises, any other voices within hearing distance, everything within our range of hearing without us being aware. The same with vision.... we are aware of what we actually look at directly, however our brain takes a photograph of the entire area of vision in complete and full detail, and all of thay is stored. When we really concentrate and totally relax our mind we will see what the brain has recorded without our awareness. 

This brings tremendous relief when we start understanding it. It falls into its proper perspective and falls into place. Now we can get on with the business of life knowing there is nothing wrong with us, it is the way things work........©

WHAT HAPPENS WITH US WITHIN THE WOMB........

IN THE WOMB

Senses are formed first of all. When conception takes place two seeds melt together and to start the growth process it needs energy. So the spirit of growth develops. Our very first awareness of life is in feeling - an emotion - basically energy in motion. As this growth develops we FEEL the warmth and safety of the womb. We also feel and sense disruptions from the outside, the depression of an unwanted pregnancy, violence and fighting which send waves of aggression into the womb. Violent conception, like rape, where a baby is conceived in a negative vibe. These negative energies become part of the growth and the baby is born unsettled and angry. Their development may even be affected by this negativity. Where it is a happy pregnancy where there is joy and laughter in a family, there is far less stress on the development of the child and normally a happy, healthy baby is born.

NEXT ......THE HEARING DEVELOPS ........AND THE BRAIN STARTS RECORDING.....©

 We are going to start from the time of conception, through birth, baby years, toddler, childhood, teenage life into adulthood, career, relationships into old age.

Next :

Within the womb.....what we never knew

So many pregnancies happen because of sex and not because of wanting a child. Things every potential mother and father should know and every person should know about themselves....... how our emotions and sub conscious and how it affects our way of thinking and our attitude to life.

WHY BOTHER WITH THIS :

BECAUSE IT WILL EXPLAIN MUCH OF OUR "LOSTNESS", FEELINGS OF REJECTION, BEING MISUNDERSTOOD, INSECURITIES, ETC......

W E    A R E    N O T    V I C T I M S    I N    L I F E .....

WE ARE IGNORANT OF THE WORKINGS OF EMOTIONS AND THE SUBCONSCIOUS........

W E    A R E    N O T    T A R G E T S ............

WE ARE LOST......

SO LETS GET FOUND AND FIND UNDERSTANDING SO WE MAY BECOME COMPLETE WITHIN OURSELVES....
AT PRESENT WE ARE BEING THROWN FOR PILLAR TO POST LEAVIN US FEELING HELPLESS, TERRIBLY FRUSTRATED AND WE DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO GO FOR HELP WITHOUT APPEARING WEAK AND USELESS.

MANY THINGS HAPPEN WHILE WE ARE VERY YOUNG AND IT IS SWEPT UNDER THE CARPET. LATER IN LIFE ALL SORTS OF STRANGE THINGS SURFACE AND WE DON'T KNOW FROM WHERE OR WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT.....

JOIN ME IN THIS VERY AMAZING JOURNEY OF SELF DISCOVERY.....MEETING OURSELVES FOR THE FIRST TIME.....GETTING TO KNOW WHO WE REALLY ARE AND NOT WHAT THE WORLD OR CIRCUMSATNCES MADE US BECOME.....BEING COMPLETELY TRUE TO OURSELVES, NO PRETENSE, NO HIDING, NO FALSENESS..... TOTALLY TRUE TO OURSLEVES, BECAUSE ONLY THEN CAN WE BEGIN TO UNDERSTAND LIFE...©