UNRESOLVED PAIN

PAIN GROWS WITH US

When pain and trauma is not dealt with and resolved, it grows with us becoming deeper and more devastating as more and more is added on. Adults have enormous responsibilities of families and jobs, insurances, financial commitments, expenses, etc and have little or no time to seek for answers, leaving them open to whatever life throws at them. It is work and back, schools, running around, caring for a home, cars, family, so we just live with it and call it " such is life"...what a blatant lie. .IT IS NOT LIFE - IT IS CAPTIVITY TO HELPLESSNESS, so we simply accept and conform to it. The problem with unresolved pain, even just from words, is that each time a similar thing happens it hits on the same spot, making the cut deeper and deeper each time, until it won't heal or go away anymore and this is when we loose it....go nuts, the tip of insanity. It's not the first cut that the deepest, it may give us the biggest shock, but it's the final cut that drives us over the edge and into the realm of insanity.....insane with pain. We can take an awful lot of abuse before eventually snapping. When we're constantly berated and belittled as a person, child or adult, those words and deeds stick, like "stupid, brat, idiot and the many more. These words reappear over and over in life, each time cutting deeper into terrible memories that won't go away and very often leads to an eruption of uncontrollable rage, resulting in enormous devastation to those around us. We don't even know where the anger comes from or how it happened, it simply explodes and pours from us like a volcanic eruption. We go into a blind rage and are now big and old enough to lash back at that particular word hitting the one from which it issues, even though the meaning was entirely different.  The WORD IS THE TRIGGER TO THE PENT UP RAGE AND FRUSTRATION...JUST THE WORD. After the explosion we have bitter regret, because we honestly never meant to hurt anyone, it just happens, it is something we can't control, it has a life of it's own. THIS IS THE RESULT OF UNTREATED PAIN. Each cut start the wounds bleeding again until the pain becomes unbearable, normally leading to excessive violence. It is VITAL TO DEAL WITH IT AND UNDERSTANDING BRINGS HEALING. Most of us live with stress of some kind and when we realize it is an explosion from the past and NOT AN ATTACK ON US AS SUCH, we are able to move past it without being crushed by it. We know deep in our heart who we are, that we are good and genuine, so we don't allow these words to make us what we are not - we let it roll off our backs - it is not relevant to us - THE SHOE DOES NOT FIT THE TRUTH ABOUT WHO WE ARE SO WE DON'T WEAR IT....WE DON'T BELIEVE OR OWN IT. DO NOT CARRY ANOTHER PERSONS RAGE AND ABUSE...LET IT FLY BY.....©Copyright

Tomorrow......is the violence a call for help?......