MANIPULATION BY REWARD

USING MONEY, LOVE AND SEX TO MANIPULATE BY REWARD

In our rushed lives with work, school, responsibilities, we often use a reward system to pay off our children to silence our guilt, instead of making the time to explain  life, resulting in a generation of beggars. Unless they are paid, nothing is done. As adults we use sex as a manipulation tool to get what we want or show our disfavour. This is not love at all, we should be teaching the values and appreciation of honour, respect, dignity decency - but all this takes time....WE MUST MAKE THE TIME. Children need to learn to do things because it is honourable....not because it's a payoff. The way we do things is what builds character - either a worthy, upright being or a lazy, arrogant, payoff kind which will cause many hardships later in life. We learn to misuse and abuse each other, instead of giving a hand and helping, because it is the honourable thing to do. We should ideally do things together as a family and make it enjoyable and fun, otherwise we draw further and further away from each other and straight into hands - normally for evil purposes - waiting for us, especially when we train children to accept money - they can then very easily be "bought" at a price having very  disastrous consequences....it never just stays there...it gets darker and darker and deeper and deeper. Same with withholding love and sex - we become tempted outside the home and marriage because we become cold and distant within the relationship ending in broken homes. When we withhold it is often returned causing a gulf that we may not be able to cross. It also stirs up doubt and insecurity - is the partner being unfaithful, what have we done wrong - why is the intimacy being withheld - resulting in many misunderstandings and fights and even possible divorce. It is NOT A GOOD IDEA TO DO THIS we need to learn openness, discussion and communication from a young age, and how will this happen when we are sent off with some bucks........DON'T GIVE A CHILD MONEY TO GO AND PLAY SOMEWHERE OUT OF YOUR WAY......... MAKE THE TIME......MONEY is one of the easiest ways to sell our lives into captivity......DON'T TEACH CHILDREN TO SELL THEMSELVES....NOT TO YOU OR TO ANY ONE. Children often need answers straight away, as things happen, so make the time and search with them the answers they seek....the dishes, the laundry, etc can wait...THIS ANSWER IS FAR MORE IMPORTANT AND WHEN PROBLEMS ARISE - DISCUSS THEM THERE AND THEN - DON'T BUILD WALLS OF THE NO AFFECTION TODAY KIND - THEY BECOME VERY DIFFICULT TO BREAK DOWN AND ALWAYS LEADS TO WITHDRAWL OF LOVE RESULTING IN DISASTER......©

Tomorrow....help each other into the light......