INNER DESTRUCTION

WHAT BREAKS US SO BAD THAT WE FEEL WORTHLESS

Neglect, harsh punishment for things we do not understand, when violence and aggression is used for correction. First feeings of heartache start with the seperation at birth when removed from our mother, except we don't understand it as that yet .....separation anxiety. Then being placed in a lonely cot all on our own so soon after birth....the first loneliness steps in. We are so unaware of human emotion, it's frightening. The first mistrust and helplessness when baby cries from the cot and there is no one there - scary. The first hopelessness makes a home in our hearts - it's scary how young this starts. They say the first four years of a child's life is important, and yes indeed, I say the first minutes and hours, then days and weeks is even more important for the emotional stability of a child, not the physical and educational part, but the emotions....as this travels with us for our entire life time, even before we start growing physically and health and education come into the picture, before we can even speak to each other. This is so incredibly important because a healthy, happy emotional being does far better health wise and with learning than the timid, fearful, insecure, afraid, untrusting toddler. The greatest part of who we are is emotion living within this vessel of flesh. When these emotions are ignored so very young in life we become disturbed in our spirit and from there stems all the "MISUNDERSTANDINGS". We ourselves don't even know where it comes from or what it is.....it is just there, this insecurity. Very few of us have ever been taught how to deal with emotions or how to express ourselves effectively. We cannot put words to emotions to explain what's happening inside and hence the feelings of isolation and rejection. When we are taught by example how to do things we don't make mistakes..... It is NOT BEING NAUGHTY TO MAKE MISTAKES.....IT'S IGNORANCE.

We should be taught with patience until we can grasp a situation. When beatings and hidings are used, any form of violence introduced into a child's life....it becomes part of them saying violence is okay. It rubs off and we hit and hurt when we can't have our way, or are unable to handle situations. THIS IS WRONG.....MOSTLY CHILDREN DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT WE ARE AFTER AND " APPEAR TO BE DISOBEDIENT AND NAUGHTY" WHEN IN FACT THEY ARE CONFUSED. Once something explained in a language they can understand then why and why not's all fall into place. Children are like sponges, always inquisitive and when bored and unguided they will explore on their own. When they then get into trouble it is the adults fault for leaving them unsupervised.....but AGGRESSION AND VIOLENCE, SHOUTING AND ABUSING IS NEVER OKAY....IT IS NOT AT ALL WISE. Explaining and understanding is the wise and right choice. Most of emotional pain and feelings of rejection, being misunderstood, feeling isolated and all alone on this earth is due to lack of decent communication and misunderstandings and it becomes deeper and deeper as we grow...it does not just vanish with age...it matures.....©

Tomorrow....crippling shame.....