OUCH THAT HURT

DIFFERENT PAINS AND HURTS.....THERE ARE PAINS THAT HURT THE FLESH AND THEN THERE ARE THE DEEP STABBING PAINS THAT CRUSH THE SPIRIT AND SOUL.......

INSULT PAINS

MISTRUST PAINS

REJECTION PAINS

LIE PAINS

to mention a few........

NONE OF THESE TOUCH OUR FLESH, SO HOW IS IT POSSIBLE THAT WE HAVE PAIN, THAT WE ARE HURTING ????? OBVIOUSLY WE ARE MORE THAN JUST MERE FLESH.....THIS PAIN REACHES INTO OUR SPIRITS, SOULS AND HEARTS.....THE REAL "US".... NOT THE SHELL THAT CARRIES US.. ...THE VESSEL IN WHICH WE RESIDE. It is the unseen pain that hurts the most and lingers the longest, because we have no idea how to deal with it. We spend twelve to eighteen years in creches and school and all we are taught is the outer body....how it works, what it must eat, how we must dress, our appearance, our looks, our muscles, our beauty, our hair, etc, etc, etc...outer, outer outer.....BUT WHAT ABOUT US....OUR EMOTIONS...OUR FEELINGS....OUR PERSONALITY....THE REAL " US"........ TOTALLY NEGLECTED, SO WE GO THROUGH LIFE WITH A MASS OF PAIN STORED DEEP INSIDE CONTINUALLY POPPING UP TO SAY HELLO.....AND WE HURT ALL OVER AGAIN AND AGAIN......

When we hurt our body we disinfect the cut, put ointment on and wrap it in plaster or bandages until it heals.....BUT WHAT OINTMENT DO WE USE FOR INTERNAL INJURIES AND HOW DO WE GET INSIDE TO TREAT IT ???? As emotional beings we undergo many injuries throughout life......

INSULT PAIN :- Words have incredible power to make or break us, it does not only sit in the brain but can change our character and attitude. As we live in a world of free speech, we need to learn how to deal with words. Words are often spoken in anger and venting, without the intention of causing harm - so we need to ask ourself :"why did it awaken feelings inside us, does the shoe fit, is it true what was spoken ?" If it is, we do something about it, the ball is in our court. We get to the bottom of the reason why it affects us, and deal with it. It is OUR CHOICE TO ACCEPT INSULTS OR LET THEM RUN OFF OUR BACKS. When nothing inside us hurts, others words will simply float past without causing any reaction. When it does hit a cord or intimidate us, we need to dig deeper to see why, because then the problem is with us. Everybody gets angry, everybody vents from time to time....it should not affect us. Don't try and resolve issues in the moments of anger for that fuels the fires of rage. Wait until it calms down then break the silence...we ask :"why the insults we cast at us ?" When an insult is thrown our way, it is personal and we have every right to find the reasons behind it. When we understand where it comes from, we can clear it out the way and put it behind us.....it may just have been an outburst and we were in the firing line and that is all....then we can leave it behind..... But don't just leave it - it remains with us until we put it to sleep, until we remove it, it won't go away on its own and why carry misunderstandings with us for years and years when we can deal with it there and then. When we look at life with the attitude of a student, everything that happens becomes an investigation to learn more about life's ways and then we use all these experiences as food for growth and nothing is wasted and we have a healthy attitude to resolves issues. We cannot avoid people in life, especially family, but we can bring it into the open and discuss it to find an agreeable understanding between our different personalities to co-exist in a peaceful manner without insulting, degrading and belittling each other. When we are continually belittled we become totally withdrawn and  become anti social and secretive and later in life this may very well manifest itself in psychotic behaviour....multi personalities and worse.... The words so burnt into our minds may very well spark off extreme violence and aggression to the point of becoming serial destroyers....serial killers...because that word sparks off the helplessness and pain and disgust we felt as a child, so our mind goes back to the age we were insulted BUT WE NOW HAVE THE STRENGTH OF A POWERFUL ADULT BODY AND THIS COMBINATION CAN BE EXTREMEMLY DANGEROUS TO ANYBODY CLOSE BY.... BECAUSE WE LOSE CONTROL, OUR TRAPPED, INJURED, FRUSTRATED CHILD TAKES CONTROL OF OUR ADULT BODY AND THERE IS NO STOPPING UNTIL THE RAGE IS SPENT. WE BECOME TEMPORARILY INSANE WITH THE PENT UP PAIN AND RAGE. We can have a situation with ten people and each one will have their own outlook and when we TALK ABOUT IT, we get to see ten different views of one situation  which enriches our outlook on life enormously so we profit from it all the way ....so.....DON'T KEEP SILENT - TALK IT OUT AND CLEAR THE AIR. WE DON'T STORE INSULTS, THERE IS NO PLACE IN OUR LIVES FOR SUCH GARBAGE AS IT WILL REOCCUR OVER AND OVER......DON'T MAKE ANOTHERS ANGER YOUR JOURNEY....IT IS NOT YOUR ANGER...SORT IT....©

Tomorrow : mistrust pain....