WHY DO WE HURT
Words and actions can break our hearts and quench our spirits when we are sensitive and take things personally. We need to remember that what is visible is the manifestation of the invisible. We are basically emotions clothed with flesh to give us the tools with which to express our emotions. The person filled with love is gentle and kind in word and action. The one filled with pain becoming anger and hatred is violent and abusive in word and action.....both these emotions affect those around us....it spills over automatically....the treasures within the heart exit through our mouths and deeds. The very core of who we are lays in our emotional condition. A VERY USEFUL bit of information is that when people are hurting and filled with pain and nothing is done to release this pain, it festers inside and turns into anger and rage which erupts into violence and destruction. IT IS NOT A CONSCIOUS, INTENTIONAL ATTACK ON US - IT'S AN UNCONTROLLABLE EXPLOSION OF PENT UP EMOTIONS BOILING OVER - LIKE A VOLCANIC ERUPTION.......IT HITS EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING IN ITS PATH....IT DOESN'T CHOOSE...IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE US....WE ARE JUST THERE AT THE TIME OF THE ERUPTION. ONCE WE UNDERSTAND THIS.....THE NATURAL PROCESS AND JOURNEY OF PAIN. ....WE WILL NO LONGER TAKE IT PERSONALLY AND THEN IT NO LONGER HAS THE POWER TO HURT US....WE UNDERSTAND IT IS AN OUTPOURING OF OLD WOUNDS THAT HAVE OPENED UP.
When someone has an emotional outburst, sit calmly and let it spew until it is empty.....don't become involved by lashing back.....don't add fuel to burning flames, it causes an inferno....don't be lured into an argument....let them rage and when it is over bring them something cool to drink and ask them if they feel better with gentleness, kindness and genuine concern....remember it is pain in disguise.....be gentle and once they have calmed down, see if you can find the source of the "pain"...... where does it come from.....what causes it...why does it spark rage.....find the root of the pain and deal with it and the eruptions will cease. Often it originates from childhood insults and hurtful words that degraded and belittled us. We grow older keeping this hidden deep inside and once we are big and strong we unknowingly, subconsciously inflict this pain on others when the same word or words trigger and spark the pain hidden inside....we probably are not even aware of it ourselves, anger just boils up from nowhere.....we are no longer small and little to be pushed around, we are now big and strong and lash back at the word, the memory, the pain. This trigger word may not have been used in the same context as when we were a child, but just the mention of the word in any context is like awakening the deep pain...like brainwashing....it is just a normal, calm day to day conversation and then the " WORD".....THE FATEFUL WORD.....that triggers THE RAGE THAT COMES OUT OF NOWHERE AS IT LASHES OUT BLINDLY AND SPEWS FORTH UNCONTROLLABLY. UNDERSTAND THIS AND FIND THE SOURCE, THE ORIGIN AND assure the person that these words were spoken in stupidity and ignorance without realizing the damage it was causing........ we should no longer allow stupidity to be our master....we should no longer allow it to control our lives....or to upset us. We are no longer little children to be pushed around by words. We are now older and understand what happened so we rid ourselves of this excess baggage. We wash it out of our system by forgiving the stupidity and ignorance of those who insulted us....this forgiving breaks the chains that hold us captive to the pains of the past....we DO IT FOR OUR OWN FREEDOM.....WE REFUSE THESE WORDS TO HAVE ANY FURTHER CONTROL OVER US......AMEN.....©
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